It has been about six months since I have been working with Blossom and her car anxiety. When I was giving her some supplements they did seem to take the edge off some. The lavendar seemed to have helped in conjunction with that, but not enough. One made her throw up bile (a supplement touted by a dog webinar presenter --not a HA! webinar)She still is eating in the car which I do so she doesn't go over threshold. Today she seemed frenetic. Today, after days of not having anything she was off the wall. When we came home after15 minutes in the car she fell right to sleep. One: anyone who has a judgment of me personally I will not tolerate it and not read your post. My self worth is just fine---matter of fact --my self worth is so fine that I am not tolerating this kind of sacrifice anymore. I was supposed to go to my holistic Dr. in another state and was going to take her but have been unable to go. When I adopted her I planned to take her to my appointment scheduled the following month. I need medical attention. Second: My self worth also is way too high to put myself at risk for a car accident that would change my life. Change my face, affect my life quality or my finances. It isn't going to happen. Choices: I will contact the vet for a drug regimen tomorrow to practice with so we can GET to the spay appointment in May an hour away. I will not pussy foot around anymore, feeding her in the car, distracting me will not be tolerated. I have done my best, sacrificed MY life and my health as I have done with all my dogs. Some call this a self worth problem--- I call it empathy....but I digress......It is time to stop all that. If the drugs do not work she is going to have to go. I had a dog once who died because he would not ride in the car....home vet care was abysmal and he suffered terribly. The rescue already said they were going to pick her up to spay her a few months ago. If she acted out in the car and I was far away, I would have to let her out-- She has some psychological problem and I need to get medical care for myself, long overdue. Again, if you have a nasty comment keep it to yourself already. As Bernie Siegel says to those making nasty comments: "I am sorry your parents did not love you" He also says "you do not know what a person is dealing with" So I am willing to try things that work but so far Pheromones, Flower essences, Rescue Remedy, having another person in the car, lavendar, music, food do not work enough for me to ride with her longer than 15 minutes. I am not going to go from this to the "nursing home" when all is said and done.